In 2000, Brenda Allison graduated from law school and moved to Chicago.
There, she found a supportive group of friends, an apartment within walking distance of the city's hottest spots..absolutely no time to date.
"There weren't a lot of people using the Internet to date back then," she says.
"I had to go to Kinko's and scan in a picture of myself for my profile." Soon after that, she was on a date.
If you are a sucker for pretty eyes, ask for a photo without sunglasses. I’m not judging, but it didn’t make me want to kiss him.
Be as kind and considerate as possible, but you do not owe anyone anything. Take the time to see if you click and have a connection worth pursuing in person. When I pay attention to my intuition and actually follow it, it rarely fails me. I made a lot of mistakes online dating when I started and definitely learned the hard way.
There are no judgements here, as people are coming from different places in their love lives.
If a person just got out of a 10-year marriage, he/she may not be looking for anything serious at this time.
Whereas, if a person has been living single and playing the field for five years, he/she may be all-in for love.
Do your homework and choose the site(s) that are right for you. If your profile is filled with lies, you are not living or sharing your truth and you will eventually be found out. He went back to his cats and I went to stock up on Zyrtec. Sexy photos are fine, just don’t overdo it or give away too much.
"I'm a lawyer, and it's a job that takes up a lot of time," she says.